Hi! Today is my 46th birthday. It is not a particularly interesting number worthy of any special commemoration. And yet, this is the year that I decided I would make my Birthday Resolutions public.
First, a little history. About 9 years ago (another irrelevant anniversary), I got in a spirited online debate about how annoying it is that everyone joins the gym at the beginning of January and throws the regulars off their (our) schedule. I'm sympathetic to anyone taking steps towards self-improvement, but could you please take them a little further away from the triceps press? Anyway, the conversation led me to the notion of creating personal resolutions on birthdays, rather than everyone doing it all at once. My rationale (based firmly in self-interest) is that people are more likely to follow through on resolutions that have a more personal connection. What better way to start improving yourself than on the anniversary of your arrival on the Earth? And guess what?! I bought my own bullshit! That very year, I set goals for myself on February 11th. Did I hit those goals with any more consistency than ones I previously set on January 1st? I'm scientifically-minded enough to know I can't answer that question...but I kinda think I did. And what I know for certain is that the ones I hit, I tracked, and was very proud of!
A few examples. The very first year, I decided I needed to read more. So I set a modest goal of 12 real, physical books to be read. I read about 5 in the first 2 months, then slowed the pace down considerably. But I read my 12th book (The Bell Jar) on my birthday, in my bed, on a rainy day in Huntington and It. Was. Glorious. Another year, I decided to write one letter a month to an unsuspecting important person in my life. I received a few letters and messages back, and these little bits of correspondence brightened up my own life, in addition to the recipients.
And not ALL of my health-related goals have been a wash. While I did not lose weight this year, I did (eventually) get to the point where I am regularly hitting 8,000 steps at least 4 days a week, doing formal exercise at least 3 days a week, and I have eliminated candy from my diet entirely (until today!).
So, that brings me to this year. One of the things I've been gradually realizing about myself is that my evangelical upbringing did not leave me when I stopped attending a church. It turns out that one of my core beliefs is that if you know good news, you should be sharing it with people you care about. As a result, one of my resolutions this year is to write on this page once a month (I'm going to try to stick to the 11th) about something I think is really cool that you should be aware of. It might be a book or album review, maybe a restaurant or cool destination to visit, or some as yet undetermined thing that hits my brain that month. The one thing I can promise, is that almost certainly will NOT be timely. I have no idea if the new Taylor Swift album is any good, but you absolutely must listen to Bill Withers Greatest Hits from beginning to end! Banger after banger!
And to get this year started off right, this is my first recommendation. Start doing Birthday Resolutions! Yes, I still want the gym to be less crowded in January. But I have also been doing this long enough to really appreciate the approach, and I think it might be worth trying. Especially if you make New Years Resolutions and struggle to keep them, or even if you think all resolutions are stupid and you just go about your regular life being awesome. It has been a rewarding exercise that started with a snarky Facebook post, and I think that alone is noteworthy (shoutout Brandy Hamrick, my foil in this and many other online discussions).
Oh, one other thing. When I'm setting goals, I keep in mind my favorite criteria, set forth by Wes Bullock in my graduate training. Do not set a goal that could be accomplished by a potted plant. Let's say, for example, you want to quit smoking. You do not set as a goal, "I will not smoke a cigarette," because the plant will also not smoke a cigarette. Instead, you try something like, "When I want to smoke a cigarette, I will go outside and take deep breaths for 5 minutes instead." The plant is just sitting inside, dumbfounded at your ability to accomplish such an admirable goal!
So here's my plan for this year.
Daily: 1) I'm going to eat one piece of fresh produce. I'm not going to try to cut out snacking, but I'm going to make sure that at least one of my snack choices is healthy. Today was a serving of grapes. 2) I'm going to drink 64 ounces of water. This is a failed resolution from last year, but one that I believe in enough to put it back on the board and start again. My kidneys will thank me. 3) I will eat homemade dessert, or none at all. No store-made processed cakes or snack cakes or anything of that sort. I'll either become a good baker, be exceedingly fortunate in stumbling upon homemade goodies, or maybe I'll finally get to some of that weight loss that's been so elusive. 4) I'm going to stretch for at least 10 consecutive minutes, and not at the gym.
Weekly: 1) I'm going to run the equivalent of a 5K every week, with the eventual goal of doing it all in one day and doing the rest of my workouts as I have been this year. I did about 7/10ths of a mile today, and clearly need to break the new running shoes in a little bit. 2) I'm going to listen to an album, start to finish, that I've never heard before. It might be something from an artist I know a little, or it might be brand new to me. In honor of his recent Super Bowl performance, I'm going to start with Bad Bunny's YHLQMDLG. Feel free to send me your suggestions.
Monthly: 1) I'm going to write my one review of something good that I think everyone should know about. 2) I'm going to revisit the monthly letter-writing campaign. I've realized over the last 2+ years that I do not necessarily want a bigger social group, but I don't want to lose contact with the one I have either. So, check your mailboxes.
